Category: Dating and Relationships
OK, I'm really really not trying to come off as a know-it-all, but I just want to call things as I see them here. There's nothing wrong with using your imagination to come up with your idea of a perfect guy or girl for a relationship, but that kind of thing doesn't seem to translate to reality well. People who ahve stunningly good looks, are rich, powerful, and otherwise impressive are either very rare or perhaps they don't even exist. No, I'm not saying settle for somebody who'll mistreat you or anything, but looks, money, power and status don't make a long-lasting relationship. All of that can go away and if that's what makes a relationship, it's just plain over.
Here's another thought, while I'm on the subject. Where do you think we get these ideas about what we want in the perfect partner? So much of it seems to be about external and material stuff.Is it hte movies and TV? Anyhow, y'all chew on those for a while. Hahahaha!
In my opinion, I have found the perfect dream partner. He's not perfect, and I'm not perfect, but that's what makes things interesting. If everything was perfect, it would be pretty boring, wouldn't it? And while i'm on the subject, if every single advertisement was exactly true, the world would be perfect. I think what we think of in our minds as the "perfect" is not exactly perfect, that's just the word we use for it. In my mind, it was as close enough to perfect as it could possibly be. and that's how I feel about the relationship I'm in. It's not perfect, but it's close enough for me.
Hmm, I've met people who are super rich, girls who are super pretty etc (we had all sorts of folk where I went to university) and the people that had so much or looked so good felt so shallow (not saying I dated any of them gosh no, I would not have had a chance but I didn't want to either). And, if you have such a good looking partner e.g. you'd be worried all the time about other people hitting on her/him about your partner yielding to the temptation or finding someone better. And I can't imagine someone perfect, I mean, it'd be almost impossible to be perfect, what is perfect, I mean you're mood is always changing, sometimes you need to have a fight or disagreement rather than always avoid it because it clears the air, sometimes it's ok to be mad at your partner and afterwards you learn to appreciate what you have all over again, that's what people go through. I think your partner has to be a friend, it's all important, there also has to be physical attraction, because, after all, that's what mostly distinguishes couples from friends, and then the love part is something that is impossible almost to defiine, may be it's the right combination of these two things, may be it's something else, I dunno, but when you feel it you know what it is. It's not how perfect your partner is, it comes because of the closeness you share. :) And, yes, things are not always perfect in my erlationship, sometimes it's hard and sometimes (not often very seldom) things almost come to a breaking point, but ultimately it holds and thing re-emerge stronger and better than before and that's what love is really all about I think <grin> that's enoug for my 2 cents .. or 10 dollars by now
Fantasies get you no where. If your standards are that you want that perfect person and nothing else, then your just gonna let yourself down and be miserable, because no one is perfect. But when your in love, you tend to think that person is perfect for a little while (at least if your a teenager anyway.) That feeling sorta fades but im pretty mature for 15 so i think i can comprehend love and all its worth, after all, how many 15-year-olds do you know who can hold a steady relationship for a year & 8 months. My point is, although nobody is perfect, someone can be perfect for you. so its all about making good choices and i guess you know when its real.
I think niblet17 summed it up "perfectly". Perfect doesn't really exist so you work to find someone who is perfect for you. If that works, they are perfect for you so it stands to reason that yyou're perfect for them so onward and upward to forever.
im not in love nor have i been in love but when that person comes along im sure theyll seem perfect to me.
good chemistry, strong connection,
accepting that person as he/she is, and not for his/her achievements. Please no strings attached.
trust, honesty, and responsibility that works for me.
No, not the media... hahaha...! no, much worse, very bad indeed. It's our matterialistic culture with the people with no thought and no self interest, just this greed for matterial gains and no thought for ideas.